To my daughter’s future husband:

It doesn’t seem like that long ago I was dreaming of what it would be like to meet the man of my dreams and spend forever with him. I was the hopeless romantic who wrote letters to her future husband and prayed for his heart starting at the age of 12. I was so blessed to have found a man better than my young mind could have imagined at the time, and here I am now thinking and praying for the husband of my little girl.

My family has always been one who considers new members an equal part of the family. There are no outsiders just because of the “in-law” label. This has taught me the importance of praying for you in advance. If you’re going to be an equal part of this family, I want the best for you now and always!

Marrying into a family is intimidating, but I want to reassure you that no matter what you think about all of us, my daughter is worth it. You see, she is loved by all she meets. Truly. From the very first moment she walks into a room, she captures the attention of everyone with her chocolate drop eyes and sincere, sparkling smile. She can be trusted to offer genuine compassion and she’s the strongest girl I know. She is still developing her personality, but there are certain things that you know are going to stick around. Thankfully, there isn’t much of anything I could warn you about!

My ultimate prayer is that God will prepare you to be the man my daughter has prayed for. 

It’s hard to fathom the impact you will have on her life. Right now I see a little girl so full of life and imagination, but one day she will see the world for its brokenness and pain, and I no longer will be able to protect her from that. But you will carry her even after I’m gone. From the time I let her go on your wedding day, you will do life together and be united as one. Though I hope she gets the fairytale she deserves, I am raising her to know that marriage is hard work. I pray that you both are willing to put in the time and sacrifice it takes. I pray she honors, respects, and cares for you and that you return the same selfless service to her as well.

Right now, you are being formed and molded by your parents. My hope is that they have introduced you to the gospel and God’s plan for salvation so that you both can continue building a foundation on the Lord for your individual spiritual development and for the example that you will set for my grandchildren.

I ask that you lead with humbleness, give generously, and love fiercely.

Until you meet one day, my husband and I vow to continue leading our daughter to love herself and others. And we both commit to an authentic love story to be a powerful example for the both of you.

Blessings and love always,

Your future mother-in-law


future husband


Amanda Foust
Amanda is a wife, mother, writer/editor, and certified life coach. Pen and paper make her spirit come alive. She spends her creative time reading, decorating, and handwriting fonts. Her world is better with an assortment of chocolate and a stack of books packed and ready for travel. She works each day to be a creative maker and a light bringer. You can find more of her writing at Downs, Ups & Teacups and