I grew up in a pro-life household. And like most of us do, I carried those pro-life beliefs with me into adulthood. I can’t remember exactly how my parents instilled the pro-life position into my mind, but it was never a question whether or not abortion was wrong. It was. It is. And it always will be. That’s what I believe, at least. You see, the older I got, the more debates and discussions I had with people who were pro-choice. This forced me to do my own research and come up with valid anti-abortion arguments, which I was usually able to come up with, thanks in part to my upbringing. And with each new fact I discovered about abortion, my pro-life stance grew stronger.
(Yep, that’s me!)
I’ve wanted to be a mom since I was a young child. And so abortion was, to me, the antithesis of motherhood. I longed to have a big family. To model the family that I grew up a part of. I’m the oldest of three children, and my parents both came had three or more siblings. I can’t even keep track of how many cousins I have anymore! You see, family is everything to me. And abortion steals away the joy that families provide. So when it came time to start my own, I was already staunchly pro-life.
Unsurprisingly, my views on abortion haven’t changed since becoming a mother. In fact, motherhood has only solidified my pro-life beliefs. With my first pregnancy, I was able to see my baby during ultrasounds at almost every visit. I heard his heartbeat early on. We had a 4D ultrasound done and I got to watch my little miracle twist and turn and even yawn! We were actually able to catch him yawning on film, which was pretty amazing. All of these ultrasounds just confirmed what I already knew- there was a tiny human growing inside of me. Not a “clump of cells.” Not a “potential person.” A living, breathing, growing person.
But besides all the scientific reasoning, I couldn’t bring myself to justify abortion under circumstantial reasoning either. I understand that finances and life in general change dramatically once you have a baby. I’ve had to adjust my life twice with each of my children. But you know what? It all worked out fine. My husband and I are certainly not wealthy. We live in a fixer upper home and buy our children’s clothes at consignment stores. I haven’t purchased new underwear in probably ten years. Sometimes my children have mac & cheese for dinner at least twice a week. Am I a perfect mother? No. Is being a mother easy? Hell no. But being a mother has shown me how incredibly strong I am. How capable I am. How loved I am.
Abortion does the opposite. It implies that women are not strong, or capable or loved. That no matter what their situation is, they can’t figure out a way to make it better. I’m here to say, yes you can. Things will be hard at first. Like, really hard. But even the richest, best dressed, most Martha Stewart-esque moms struggle. We all do. And that’s ok. Because we are women, and we can get through it!
I read once that “unplanned pregnancy can also mean unplanned joy.” I couldn’t agree more. Even though both of my children were planned, I know that children who aren’t planned still bring so much worth to this world. I’ve heard stories of women who were raped and chose to keep their babies. They said that those babies actually helped them heal from their experiences because they were the joy the women needed to help them move on. I’ve also read several testimonials and seen videos of former abortion workers, and post-abortive women who’ve become pro-life since witnessing ultrasounds or having watched how the aftermath of abortion is so damaging to women.
With all the technology that we have today, and with the advances that we’re making in the workplace to accommodate working mothers, there’s no excuse. As a pro-life woman who has experienced growing two people inside of me, and is now in the process of raising those two babies, I can say that motherhood is a blessing and a privilege. Any woman who thinks denying herself of it makes her “empowered” is in for a rude awakening. I’ve never felt more like a woman than when I became a mama.