As a millennial mom, I am also one of the two women in my “before” social circle to foray into motherhood. This isn’t something that I necessarily dislike or something that keeps me away from my friends, but it is something that makes socializing a little harder. Impromptu mini vacations are absolutely out of the question, and even a double date night has to be planned a while in advance to ensure that a trustworthy, reliable sitter has been lined up. Not all of my interests have changed with motherhood, but my priorities certainly have. While I have absolutely no interest in dropping good friends just because they aren’t parents yet, it does make making mom friends super important. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Navigating the wonderful world of motherhood and mommy friends can be difficult, but with these five tips, you’ll be able to find your newest bestie in no time!
1. Channel Your Inner Extrovert
This can be said for all areas of your life- the best way to go about making new friends is to put yourself out there. If you see a fellow mom at the park, don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation. Friends can be made in the most random ways and in the most unexpected places. One minute you’re talking about how awful the weather has been and the next you find yourself with a lifelong pal.
Not every mom you speak to is going to turn into your best friend, of course, but you won’t know if you don’t try!
2. Take Advantage Of Local Groups
Mommy groups can be a bit overwhelming at times but they can also be a great way to meet new moms. From mommy and me playgroups, to stroller strides, to Wednesday night bible study at your church. Most of your local group gatherings are completely safe and, even if they aren’t necessarily intended for moms specifically, they can offer you a great opportunity to meet new people and have a little fun doing it.
3. Find Ways Things To Bond On Outside Of Motherhood
Naturally, being a mother is a large part of your identity, but it isn’t the ONLY thing that makes you, you. Whether you’re super interested in art, you’re an exercise nut, or you never miss an episode of Grey’s Anatomy, there are tons of other things about you that matter just as much as your status as a mom. The same can be said for any potential friends you might make. It’s totally natural to bond over the ups and downs of parenting, but you should seek to make friends who you find fun, entertaining, and supportive outside of that.
So many of us find parts of our identities that used to be big parts of our lives lost in the fray. Being able to make friends to can help you recapture these parts without sacrificing your identity as a mother is the ultimate goal.
4. Turn Playdates Into Mom Dates
Playdates are an inevitable part of motherhood, it only makes sense to use them to your advantage. If your children are old enough to play safely without constant, close supervision, use the time to genuinely get to know a fellow mom. Sit down over a cup of coffee and turn your child’s playdate into a mom date. This doesn’t require you to go to any groups or go completely out of your way but it could yield some fantastic results.
5. Get Online
As a mother that works from home and spend a lot of her time on the internet, I have come to learn that online friendships are just as meaningful as real life friendships. A mom from clear across the country can provide you with tons of support, laughter, and companionship. When making friends online, you do have to be a little more discerning at first but Facebook groups, mommy message boards, and any online places where moms convene are great places to start.