What parent hasn’t lost their temper from time to time? It really is the worst feeling. Even though I apologize to my little one I still walk away with a sickie feeling that wont quit. That’s the nasty mommy guilt we all carry around. I know that there isn’t a parent out there that hasn’t lost their temper a time or two, and if they say they haven’t, they are lying to your face. It’s human nature, and these tiny troublemakers sure know how to push buttons. Next you find yourself in a battle of wills try some of these defusing techniques to help keep that temper at bay.
1. Know We All Make Mistakes
First, you need to let go of past mistakes, and even mistakes you will still make. This parenting thing is HARD, and we all mess up sometimes. No single one of us is perfect, not even your friend who you think is super mom. When we do mess up, it’s a valuable lesson for our kiddos to see. Take a deep breath, say sorry and move on.
2. Shake Off That Bad Mood
Do you ever feel like you just got out of the wrong side of the bed? That ordinarily your toddler insisting on using your toothbrush instead of their own would really bother you, but today is infuriating. Learn to recognize those feelings quickly and do something that will help shake off the grumpiness so you can get on with you day. If you don’t that frustration will follow you around all day and you will find it is much more difficult to stay cool in the midst of another toddler tantrum.
3. Choose Your Battles
While we do work hard to encourage good behavior in all areas, lets be honest, some rules and behavior are more import than others. Does it really matter that your kid wants to wear their pajamas to the grocery store? Not really. Set clear boundaries so your children know what you expect of them, and then say yes to some of their crazy requests every once in a while. You know, because you’re a cool mom. (Mean Girls quote ;))
4. Mommy Time Out
Oh my, how this is needed every once in awhile. If the situation is become increasingly difficult and you feel you may loose your temper then trying counting to 10, stepping out of the room or simply closing your eyes while taking deep breaths. You will feel much better for taking a moment to do any of these simple tasks instead of engaging in a screaming match with your emotionally-raged toddler.
5. Schedule In Some “You Time”
If the day-in day-out of bad behavior is starting to drive you slightly insane and you have realized a Target run alone is the only thing keeping you holding on then its time for a change. I know it can be hard to squeeze some “mom time” into a busy lifestyle but it’s something that needs to be prioritized. Make time to get to the gym or schedule time with friends so you can feel refreshed when its time to tackle the next
6. Reach Out
Get a momma friend on the phone, or shoot a text to your bestie when the stress is starting to get to you and you need a pep talk. Make sure to only reach out to friends who are going to uplift and encourage you in your low moments and not those who will judge you for fantasying about getting in your car and taking a long drive alone.
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