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When you are pregnant, it’s a time full of uncertainty and wonder. Through the ups and downs, you may experience feelings you never would have thought you would–especially all at once. At times there is anticipation, bouts of excitement, plagues of stress and worry, moments of confusion, blissful joy… the list could read something like a novel if you were to closely keep track of absolutely everything. All in all, it’s important to mentally condition yourself while you are pregnant so that you aren’t catapulted into motherhood unprepared and left scrambling with all these thoughts that can leave you with a strong sense of troubling self-doubt. Like any journey in life, motherhood is not always easy, and while it can come naturally for some there is no reason to feel insecure because it doesn’t come like second nature for you. If anything, it’s a huge adjustment and a large dose of reality all rolled into one.
- It’s not about you anymore–be prepared
This one can hit some women like a ton of bricks. But the proof is in the pudding. You have to experience this firsthand to totally realize the meaning. In the first few months once the baby is here, if you are like most women without the luxury of a night nurse or nanny, you will be so sleep deprived you will need a new word for it. During your last trimester of pregnancy be mindful of the months ahead and try to take as much “me time” as you possibly can, because you may not get to once the baby is here. Spoil yourself a little bit, you are cooking a baby in there. Go for a pedicure once a week, take yourself shopping, go see a movie, anything that would be you happy and could pass the time in a relaxed and peaceful way.
- As your love grows remember who came into the picture first
I’ve been guilty of this, I won’t lie. Sometimes we can get so caught up in baby-to-be/new baby that the man gets put on the back burner. To keep a healthy relationship, be mindful of their needs, too. It’s okay to be enamored by all things new baby, but try to make the effort to devote some time for your man, too. Men like to feel wanted and needed so while the baby might be the nucleus of your world, remember about Daddy and that will make him feel appreciated. A plus one is a major implementation to a twosome, so to keep intimacy alive its important to ease in, and not go guns blazing. You don’t want to change your entire focus to all things baby, because this will prove a major issue in the long run for your existing relationship.
- Questions shift to all things baby
Each and every pregnant woman alive has all been asked this multiple times throughout their pregnancy: “How are you feeling?” It’s nice when people ask you how you are doing, because it’s coming from a good place and it shows that they care about you–and not just that little bun in the oven. Then when you become a mother, this changes very, very quickly. All questions turn to baby. “How is the baby doing?” can be heard from most people’s mouths. This can be hard, and at times you may feel as if you are left out or even not so important. Try not to take it to heart, although this can be difficult. It’s natural for people’s minds to begin to think this way so you can’t take it personal, although after experiencing a triathlon of emotions (and raging hormones) it’s pretty challenging not to.
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