Every relationship is unique, but what they all have in common is that they require work. As time goes by, you may begin to notice that the passion between you two has cooled down. Sometimes, it’s because we did something that hurt our partner’s feelings or it may be an everyday routine that has to lead you to this place. No matter the reason, if you want to spice up your relationship it’s time for some action. Sure, good communication is essential in every relationship, but sometimes, simple words just aren’t enough. They say that actions speak louder than words so let us guide you through some small things you can do to warm up a cold relationship.
Don’t make assumptions.
This sounds easy, but the reality is that sometimes it’s really hard to resist the whirlwind of bad thoughts when we notice that our partner behaves differently. Mastering the ability to control your thoughts is a wonderful virtue both in and out of a relationship. If your partner has just come home in a really bad mood, don’t snap at them or take an interrogative approach. This will only make things worse. They will feel the need to defend themselves and instead of having a calm and reasonable conversation, you’ll probably end up fighting. Instead, tell them that you noticed the way they feel and ask if everything is ok. This approach will open the door to communication and in most cases, the truth will be a far cry from the assumptions you made.
Sweeten up your relationship.
Chocolate is without a doubt on the top of the list when it comes to ways of showing affection. Whether it’s a Valentine’s Day, a birthday party, or a simple way to show some love to the people you care about, it’s been a part of different kinds of celebrations since forever. If you’re looking for a way to spice up your long-term relationship, go for some delicious chocolate goodies. Most people would agree that they love chocolate because it tastes good. On the plus side, it makes you feel good too. That’s because cocoa contains Phenylethylamine and serotonin, both responsible for lighting up pleasure areas in the brain. This is why it’s probably the sweetest aphrodisiac in the world. There’s a great variety of options to explore. White or dark, boxes or chocolate fountains, plain or flavoured, chocolate is an easy and tasty way to warm up your relationship.
Flowers are always a good idea.
Speaking of presents, the options are endless. Although you can surprise your loved one with a new gadget or a trip to a spa centre, some gifts are classics. Flowers will always be in style. A gorgeous bouquet of fresh flowers is an effective way to express your emotions. This is especially a common gift in countries like Australia where the warm and sunny climate provides endless types of lovely fresh flowers perfect for any occasion. If you don’t have a flower shop nearby, do your research and explore the amazing choice of gorgeous flowers in Sydney has to offer. Flowers have a great deal of symbolism so take your time to get clued up about it. If you want to send the right message, make sure to pick the right types and colours of flowers together with an appropriate message attached to the bouquet. Many shops offer the possibility to order your bouquet online and they will deliver it to your home. Sounds perfect, doesn’t it?
Make a collage of your old memories.
Sometimes, in the craziness of everyday stresses and hectic schedules, we tend to forget all those wonderful times we spend with our partner. Therefore, if you want to warm up your relationship, one of the easy ways is to evoke those sleepy feelings. Collect all your pictures and memorabilia. Get yourself a nice board or even better – make one. You can find all the necessary materials in the local craft store. Be creative when it comes to the shape of the board and its decoration. Aside from the pictures which are touching enough, add some game or theatre tickets and other little things that will remind that person of all the happy moments you spent together. As a final touch, don’t forget to write something thoughtful about it. This is the sign of affection that will melt almost anybody’s heart.
Finding a new and fun activity that you share is an easy yet useful way to bring you closer. Exercising has numerous benefits on its own, but doing it together with your partner will make things even more interesting. Exercising regularly will not only give you leaner muscles but it will put you in a better mood, too. Speaking of a better mood, your libido will get higher. Working out speeds up your heart rate and increases your blood flow, especially in the pelvic region. What’s more, it releases endorphins or so-called “happiness” hormones. Working out also efficiently battles stress, which is undoubtedly one of the greatest sex-drive killers out there. Hitting the gym together as a couple will introduce a new activity into your daily routine plus it will spice up things in the bedroom as well.
Give each other some space.
This may sound contradictory, but give it some thought. Spending time apart is as equally important as spending time together. Even though your partner’s friends adore you (and vice versa), both of you need to spend some time alone with your friends. Don’t make each other feel guilty about doing this and don’t check on each other every five minutes. Giving each other space will only bring you closer. Having separate social lives and being respectful of that will strengthen your relationship.
Being in a relationship means that you need to shake things up a bit from time to time. It will keep the fires of passion lingering, which is very important. It will also improve communication and warm up the relationship that has turned cold. Sometimes it may seem like a challenging task, but with the right tips, you’ll soon bring back those sleeping butterflies.
About the Author
Stella Ryne is an art historian, traveller, conscious consumer and a proud mother. When she is not trying to improve the things around her (and herself, for that matter), she likes to lose herself in a good book. Stay in touch with Stella via Twitter and Facebook.