Being a mom is the greatest job in the world as well as the most difficult job in the world. It’s a 24/7, no sick days, and no lunch breaks kind of job. At times, when you are laughing and playing with your child it can be very rewarding. Other times, when they’re throwing tantrums all day, it can make us go insane. It’s unlike any job in the world, but if you ask any mom they would say it’s worth it. Even still, it’s always nice to get a little affirmation every now and then from a friend, your husband, or even a stranger. Knowing that there are people out there who care, helps get us moms through the day. Every mom should hear these 5 things more often. It will make them feel better about themselves and will help them get through the day.
1. “You’re Doing A Great Job”
Even though at times you may feel like our world is going to end if your child doesn’t stop his temper tantrum in the middle of the mall, you really are doing the best job that you can. Ignore the glares from people who either don’t understand because they don’t have kids or don’t know that this is the fifth tantrum your child has thrown today and you can’t handle one more minute of it. Just take a deep breathe, and remember that between bathing your child, feeding them, doing laundry, cleaning, and keeping yourself together through out the day, you really are doing your best at every moment.
2. “You’re A Good Mom”
Although you may feel like you are a horrible mom at times, you are not. Every mom has had that thought go through her head, and it couldn’t be farther from the truth. Just because you forgot to change your child’s diaper, yelled at your child, or let your child cry in their crib for a few minutes because you needed a few moments to yourself, doesn’t make you a bad mom. It makes you a normal mom. Often times when my husband can tell that I’ve had a rough day with our son, he’ll tell me that I’m an amazing mom. Even if I don’t believe it at the time, it’s still good to hear it from someone else who thinks you are. We shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves. If your child is healthy, growing, happy, and loves you then there’s proof right there that you are a good mom.
3. “You’re Not Alone”
The one great thing about being a mom, is that you are truly never alone in this crazy, fun, exhausting job. Every single mom in this entire world has been through what you are going through. They have felt what you are feeling, seen what you seen, done what you’ve done, etc. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to talk to other moms about the struggles you are having with your child. Chances are, they are struggling with the very same thing, or did at one time and know the perfect solution. Don’t be afraid to open up because we can all use each others support and knowledge to help us survive this roller coaster called being a mom.
4. “Can I Help You?”
There are no sweeter words to a mom’s ears than “Can I help you?” Those words are music to our ears because we thought someone would never ask. Moms can always use help, even when they say they don’t. Every little bit of help can greatly reduce our stress. Taking out the trash, doing the dishes, vacuuming, changing diapers – these are some simple things that will help any mom get through her day. Next time you see a mom struggling, don’t be afraid to ask if they need help and be persistent, because chances are, they’ll say, “No.”
5. “Everything’s Going To Be Okay”
As women, it’s only natural for our hormones to go a little crazy now and then and to feel like our life is over because we yelled a little bit at our child. At that very moment, yes, it may feel like life will end, but I assure you that it won’t. When we are feeling like this it’s great to have someone calm you down and tell you that everything will be okay. After the crazy hormones have settled, you and your child have stopped crying, and you hug your child with a big kiss on the cheek, everything will be back to normal and all will be right in the world again. It’s okay to make a mistake as a mom. There’s always a new day tomorrow and our children will always forgive us. Just remember the wise words of Bob Marley, “Every little thing’s gonna be alright.”